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As children, teens, and even adults each and every one of us has experienced bullying in some shape or form. Whether we have been a victim or a witness, there is no denying that it is toxic and damaging. Sometimes those who are doing the bullying or teasing do not realize how hurtful their words are. Most younger children do not even think twice about the consequence that follows soon after. While some have tough skin, words hurt and often lead to permanent damage. Being bullied can lead to depression, low self esteem, anxiety, and an overwhelming feeling of loneliness. Long term effects also include substance abuse and even suicide.
Bullying can be defined by three types of abuse. It is not ONLY delivered by verbal attacks but also physical and emotional. Badgering, repeated aggressive behavior, teasing, name calling, and intentionally causing someone harm are all considered forms of bullying. I can guarantee that everyone has experienced one of the listed behaviors. Regardless of which form it is delivered in, it is in no way acceptable and should not be tolerated.
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Most of the bullying was done on the good old internet in my situation. It seems like it is much easier to hide behind a computer screen and say horrible things to someone. It is sad to think that people can be so cruel and saying hateful things to make them feel better about themselves. At this time I was called every name in the book and criticized about every imperfection I possessed. It was just a bad time for me. It put such a damper on my self esteem and at times made me question myself. Thankfully I had an amazing support system to back me up. I made it out of “bullying” in one piece and even stronger today. Take THAT jealousy and ignorance!
Educating our children on bullying is beyond important. Take the pledge above and stand against bullying. We have to start somewhere and each small step counts. There is power in numbers and if each person takes the pledge to put an end to this act of abuse, a positive change can be made. It only takes a few minutes of your time and in turn you can be assured that you are contributing to a wonderful cause.
Here are a few tips from KidsHealth.org on taking action against bullying with your own children:
- Take bullying seriously. Make sure your kids understand that you will not tolerate bullying at home or anywhere else. Establish rules about bullying and stick to them. If you punish your child by taking away privileges, be sure it’s meaningful.
- Teach kids to treat others with respect and kindness. Teach your child that it is wrong to ridicule differences (i.e., race, religion, appearance, special needs, gender, economic status) and try to instill a sense of empathy for those who are different. Consider getting involved together in a community group where your child can interact with kids who are different.
- Learn about your child’s social life. Look for insight into the factors that may be influencing your child’s behavior in the school environment (or wherever the bullying is occurring). Talk with parents of your child’s friends and peers, teachers, guidance counselors, and the school principal. Do other kids bully? What about your child’s friends? What kinds of pressures do the kids face at school? Talk to your kids about those relationships and about the pressures to fit in. Get them involved in activities outside of school so that they meet and develop friendships with other kids.
- Encourage good behavior. Positive reinforcement can be more powerful than negative discipline. Catch your kids being good — and when they handle situations in ways that are constructive or positive, take notice and praise them for it.
- Set a good example. Think carefully about how you talk around your kids and how you handle conflict and problems. If you behave aggressively — toward or in front of your kids — chances are they’ll follow your example. Instead, point out positives in others, rather than negatives. And when conflicts arise in your own life, be open about the frustrations you have and how you cope with your feelings.
Have you had a talk with your children about bullying? As parents it is our job to educate them on treating others with respect and how important it is to be kind to everyone. It is never too soon to instill these behaviors and build confidence! Take the pledge for yourself and your child.
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Disclosure: This post is sponsored by TakePart. All opinions are my own!
